Mediation is a process in which a neutral party (the mediator) works with the two of you, together, to help you decide what will work best for all involved.
Divorce shouldn’t be a strictly legalistic process, but rather one of negotiation with compassion.
A good mediator will guide you through the process of negotiating the terms of your divorce, and help ensure that each of you feel empowered to make informed decisions: dividing assets & debts, parenting responsibilities, child support, spousal support. They will help you to focus on the real concerns as divorcing spouses and as parents, and assist in finding options, alternatives, and solutions.
In general, it is an attorney’s obligation to try to “win” for his/her client. But divorce is not about winning or losing. It should be about moving forward with your individual lives as best you can.